July 7 is Global Forgiveness Day. As a family caregiver, this can be an incredibly meaningful and impactful concept. Forgiveness is not about condoning what someone has done or forgetting that they ever hurt you. Instead, it is about letting go of this hurt and the negative feelings, and moving forward. As a caregiver, this can help you to bring your focus away from the difficulties in the past and put it instead on the needs to care for your senior. This eases stress and anxiety, boosts the meaning and value of your relationship, and helps you to give your parent the care that they deserve.
Use these tips for forgiving your loved one on Global Forgiveness Day:
- Identify the true hurt. Before you can start working on forgiveness, you need to identify the real cause of the hurt that you are feeling. Take some time to evaluate the painful feelings that you are experiencing and what has caused them. Once you have isolated that cause you can begin to pursue forgiveness.
- Understand the hurt. Once you have identified the hurt that you have been feeling, work toward understanding it. This might mean talking to your aging parent about what happened and how it has impacted you. You might find that what you think happened didn’t actually happen, or that they didn’t know about the pain that you have been suffering. Talking to them about it can help you to better understand what you have been through so that you can begin to let it go.
- Know that this is for you. While you hope that this process will be a meaningful step toward drawing the two of you closer together, it is possible that that is not how this situation will unfold. Your parent might resist admitting any wrongdoing or may not work with you. This can make you feel as though they do not “deserve” to be forgiven or that you do not want to forgive them because you feel that they should not be “let off the hook”. If this happens, know that forgiveness is not for your parent. Forgiveness is for you. This is about releasing you from pain, anger, and negative emotions that hold you back. Reminding yourself about this will help you to continue the process and see that this is a step toward making this situation easier and healthier for you even if your parent is not willing to accept it.
If you have been looking for ways to boost your aging parent’s quality of life and help them to experience a lifestyle that is more independent, engaged, and fulfilling, now may be the ideal time for you to consider starting elderly care for them. An elderly home care services provider can work with you to determine a customized schedule that ensures your senior loved one gets all of the care and assistance that they need in a way that manages their individual needs and challenges while also encouraging more independence and activity as they age in place. This not only helps to keep your parent safer, more comfortable, healthier, and happier, but it can make a tremendous difference to you as their family caregiver. Knowing that your loved one has this type of highly personalized care available to them can ease your mind, help you to manage your stress, and ensure that you have the time, energy, and effort to focus on yourself, your children, your partner, and other important elements of your life while knowing that your senior is in good hands.
If you or an aging loved one are interested in elder care in Scottsdale, AZ or the surrounding areas, please contact the professional team at Devoted Guardians Home Care. Call today at (800) 699-4781 or (480) 999-3012.
Aaron spent 5 years working for Intel Corporation in Chandler, Arizona right out of college until he ventured off on his own. Aaron has owned and operated successful small businesses for the past 10 years.
Aaron is currently the CEO and owner of Devoted Guardians a Non-Medical In Homecare Agency covering the entire Phoenix valley. Aaron has been CEO since 2012 and running businesses since 2005.